I asked my officemates about what they think about a girl making the first move for someone they like and here’s what they said …..

For the girls the question was— As a girl would you consider making the first move to someone you like?

Jen said:

c jen ko: no. i still practice the old fashioned way on how real filipina carry her ways

Michelle added:

chelle go: I don’t see anything wrong if the girl would do the first move to someone I like. If it is the only way that he will notice my presence and make us closer then I would go for it. Besides being firm and proper sometimes make me bored, so I guess making the first move is not that bad.. You just need a big push in doing it!
BUZZ!!!
Gen: so you dont think making the first move as a GIRL makes you cheap?
BUZZ!!!
chelle go: But I guess it depends on the technique on how you makes the move in catching the attention of the guy of your dream.
Gen: right
Gen: i mean
Gen: its how you do it
Gen: i made moves but they arent obvious…
Gen: so im never caught to that..
Gen: so i never feel guilty about it..
chelle go: hahahha

Another Mischelle said:

mischelle lisondato: why not!?! at this time & age..gosh! it’s not something that u need to keep & hold on to urself…kasi malay mo naghihintay lng din ng sign yan lintek! d ba?! d ka naman magpapakasal agad no! go girl! go figure!
Gen:
Gen: yeah right..
Gen: one of my boyfriendS..
mischelle lisondato: what about?!
Gen: said that she dont like it when a girl is the first one to make the move because he said they loose respect to that girl..
mischelle lisondato: common! get real!
Gen: i told him that i think it depends on what move is she gonna make i mean if shes gonna make you notice her by getting naked in front of you then thats unrespectable..
Gen: he just laughed…
mischelle lisondato: truelly!
mischelle lisondato: yung ganong lalaki makitid yun…
Gen: i did told him.. i ussually make a move but its not obvious..
mischelle lisondato: right!
Gen: so he said right..i didnt noticed you made a move
mischelle lisondato:
Gen: and told him..hell yeah! i didnt made a move for you!…youre the one who wanted me..
mischelle lisondato:
mischelle lisondato: caught him there!clever grl!
Gen: yeah right..

Elva said:

elva agbon: depends to whom i’m making my first move to
elva agbon: like… if he’s worthy of it
elva agbon: whehhehehehe
Gen: how would you know if he’s worthy?
elva agbon: through his personality
elva agbon:
elva agbon: wahahahhaha
elva agbon: the way he treats women
Gen: how sure are you know about his personality then?
elva agbon: and the likes
elva agbon: well by observation that is

CHiong got lots to share and this is what she said:

Mary Ann Chiong: why not?
Mary Ann Chiong: there is nothing wrong with it.
Mary Ann Chiong: it’s our society’s double standards that prevent us from doing so.
Gen: so you dont think making the first move makes a girl cheap?
Mary Ann Chiong: absolutely no. it means that that particular girl is empowered, liberated. she knows what she wants, and grab it.
Gen: great! Is there anything else you want to say about this topic?
Mary Ann Chiong: is a man cheap because he initiated the first move? i don’t think so. it’s an old discrimination against women that should be put to an end.
Mary Ann Chiong:
Gen: nice one chiong..
Gen: im sure everyones gonna be surprised about what you said to this topic..
Gen: thank you!
Gen: for sharing your thoughts…
Gen:
Mary Ann Chiong: hahaha.i’m not a feminist. but i believe in the right to choose for both gender.
Mary Ann Chiong:
Gen: well thats just how should people think about things now..its really different..because women now are smarter and WE know now what we really want and we do our best to achieve those!

for the boys the question was — As a guy would you consider a girl making the first move to someone they like cheap or what?

And heres what the guys said…

Wayne said:

wayne garcia: as girls say, they can do what guys can do so prove it by showing affection to opposite sex or even court a guy, winks!
Gen: do you think its cheap?
Gen: or normal?

wayne garcia: it depends on what move does the girl will do. she should know her limitations in showing affection to the guy she like. in our generation, all sexes are equal. cheap or not cheap, love should be express.

For Mitch:

MitchMatch: it’s ok..
Gen: why?
MitchMatch: there is nothing wrong on telling the person that you love him…but there is a downside on that, either you will be abuse or the person will take the advantage on getting you.
Gen: nice answer
Gen: anything else you want to add?
MitchMatch: Sorry i can’t share much since i am still learning…
MitchMatch: and also, in some asian countries…girls are more showy, they’ll let the guy knows that she has a feeling to him, I’ve seen that on anime’ movies..hehehhe , just sharing it, duh!
MitchMatch: try to watch – Midori No Hibi
MitchMatch: heheheh

He said its one example of the girl making the first move..so ill try to watch it..lol..

For raffy:

RapIRaP Montehermoso: Society has its own ways of understanding such situations but i believe that it’s an open community, everybody should be given the freedom to express what he or she feels regardless of gender, race, status and, of course, physical appearance.

Peter said:

Joseph Peter Capaque: no… open minded person ko… I am one of the modern few

Joseph Peter Capaque: well, i do not believe in the patriarchal system where women should always be subordinate… Men can do it, so, why can’t women do it? Especially when men act more like women in courting attitudes?

SO that was it… For me, I think making the first move as the GIRL is not bad at all if the move you’re making is not obvious and is not  too daring… I do make a move for the guy i like but i try to be discreet about it..I never ever let the guy know if i like him or what… There a lot of instances that I talk about it with my boyfriends… Most said its cheap, and i said well it depends on how the girl made the move.. And besides dont you think its high time for you guys to grow up..this is the new generation so theres nothing you can expect but more changes to the cultures that we have… Being liberated is not bad at all but too much is not good also! So girls…if you want to make the first move..consult me.. lol… I can help you out if you want… lo.l.. ciao! see you again for the next topic..

T hank you peeps for another great responses…love ya all!

Do you believe in happy endings? Well I asked the whole group in the night shift about their points of view about this question and here goes…

First is JEN and here’s what she said:

c jen ko: happy endings?
c jen ko: no
Gen: why?
c jen ko: dli man sure nga happy
c jen ko: hahaha
c jen ko: kay ala pa man nag end ang life
c jen ko:
c jen ko: contious pa man as long as naa pay breathe
Gen: serious akong question bah
Gen: for my blog
Gen:
c jen ko: aw
c jen ko:
c jen ko: basta ako..i cannot yet say happy or sad endings
c jen ko: morag movie ra man ang ga end
c jen ko: hehe

c jen ko: la pa man nag end ang life
So in short..she doesn’t think happy endings exist…

Second is Mary An, and she said:

Mary Ann Chiong: nope
Gen: why?
Mary Ann Chiong: i know it’s not real. happy ending means perfection, and there is no such a thing

..short..but straight to the point huh!…

next is Mischelle and she said:

mischelle lisondato: yes
mischelle lisondato: only if u also do ur part…
mischelle lisondato: & help work things(relationship) out!
mischelle lisondato: r we talking about “love story” hapi ending here grl?!
Gen: anything else you want to add?
mischelle lisondato: and choose to have a happy ending w/ ur loved one..
mischelle lisondato: i guess, it’s a matter of choice…being happy w/ the one u truelly loved!
Gen: how do you think it is done?
Gen: i mean you know, making it work?
mischelle lisondato: doing everything to make it work…
Gen: okay
mischelle lisondato: i dunno..it depends…
mischelle lisondato: on what u need to give & work out!
mischelle lisondato: ..what u need to be done…to have a happy ending…hehehe
mischelle lisondato: y? r u some kindda confused..lover grl? huh?!
mischelle lisondato: sucker for happy endings?

She thought im confused..but no im not..pretty much okay here! lol…

N ext is Raffy and heres what he has to say:

RapIRaP Montehermoso: it depends…
Gen: why?
RapIRaP Montehermoso: it happens when both parties are happy,maybe at the moment but there are circumstances which may happen unexpectedly.
RapIRaP Montehermoso: it’s up for them to decide wether it should be a happy ending, or not
RapIRaP Montehermoso: dah, ka advice ka lagi
RapIRaP Montehermoso: mga tinudlo-an sa akong chickboy nga lolo

This young boy just knows who to listen to..lol…

Next is  wayne and heres what he said:

wayne garcia: ofcourse naman
wayne garcia: theres someone that is destined for you
wayne garcia: i beleieve that
wayne garcia: believe
wayne garcia: we cud meet a lot of wrong people and get hurt a lot of times, it is only a preparation for you to meet the right one

Oh.. He is in love dont you think so? He does hope and believes that someone is meant for you and it will come and hopes its gonna be in the right time..lol…

For now..I really think that happy endings are to be worked..You need to do the right things for it(relationship) to grow, because if both of you arent trying to work things out then nothings gonna happen to your relationship..its never gonna be a happy ending…So for all of you out there who are confused, or whatever you are feeling about happy endings..think twice..and drop your comments..im sure youll be amazed about how you think about this stuff.. lol… Thanks for the answers peeps..you’re of great help.. muah… lol

Often guys misinterpret what or how girls feel…I’m talking about something that happened to me! I mean i admit that i’m a jealous type, but it is my way of saying or showing how i like or love the person! It is something also that i do to show my “affection” to a guy! Oftentimes, guys tend to think that a girl is a nagger if she kinda gets jealous of something..well i think it depends on the situation of how this girl got jealous..like for example, a lover was at the mall, and then a real sexy girl passed by and the guy just cant get enough looking at her, so the girl was of course bummed about that…who wouldn’t? I would really walk out if my guy wont stop looking at that girl..duh! “rot in hell for all i care” … Dont you think its just reasonable enough, huh? Me being an affectionate person often gets jealous at something when i know my place… I am not a nagger type of girlfriend..but to hell with you guys…i never, ever stop a guy from having another girl…coz guess what? I can have lots of guys to date if really i want to…so lets just be FAIR, okay!? Maybe at times we (girls) can be irritating but it’s kinda part of our demeanor to be irritating, sweet, insane, loveable, intelligent, emotional, sensitive (which i’m not)…lol… I mean come on guys…we are what we are…why cant you just love us and embrace us wholly..rather than telling us not to do this, not to wear that…or whatever the do’s and dont’s that you want you girlfriend to do and be….I love deep..but i hurt superficially…I dont want to get so stucked up with something that i think isn’t intended for me… I know in time..I will and will be with the one i love…hope its gonna be in the right time…!

Just recently, i had “kilig” moments with someone, i don’t know why but i just feel so excited everytime i see him, especially when we are together! We actually went to see “Covenant”, it was a nice movie, the effects are but some of the happenings there are way too much i guess…unbelievable! Being with him, seeing him, talking with him and kissing him is something that makes me more excited! lol… he is just something! I cant describe it but i’m happy with him! Such a nice, gentleman, not to mention “good looking”… ! ahhhhhhhh..he is just so irresistible! How i wish i can have him! but the thing is “I can’t”… SO depressing, so frustrating…I will miss him when he leaves this sunday for manila! wish i can see him again though! i’ll miss you vince…kisses for you! hmmmmmmmm muaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh…. lol..kinda insane huh! do keep in touch! that’s the least you can do for me!

Police as they say are the protector of the people! But for me not at all, there might be good policemen but it would be 3 percent of the whole population of the police force. I have encountered so many times about how police really do play their role as the so-called protectors (but actually robbers and thieves). Just recently i had this friend who was captured because of something he wasn’t really supposed to be involved with. But this group of police seemed to hear the cry of my friend not to put him to prison because he didn’t knew about it! They played as if they were the good guys…So they offered to help him “let’s help him man its not worth his future, with the quote (We’ll help you, but you help us also)” It was BULLSHIT kind of help…they meant to ask for money in return to let him go! they asked my friends family for 50,000 PESOS… the family asked to lower the amount they wanted so they said “okay because we are “good people” we understand your situation so we will make it 30,000 PESOS) sounded like a good deal huh? Well it was an enormous amount of money that they needed…So my poor friends family had to look for money in just a matter of 3-5 hours because they were pressured by the policemen… I didn’t actually knew he was in MAHARLIKA – the name of the police precinct in carmen here in the city not until i called him thought he was dating or something, he asked me to go see him there, i was bit confused of what I’m going to do because i don’t have any idea what I’ll be dealing with when i go there! But i hesitantly went home and brought a jacket with me! when i saw him i was disappointed, angry (actually had a mixed emotion) i didn’t know what i’ll do with him, we talked and i asked him about what happened,he said he was called by a friend who said he needed his help, so when he went to where his friends at, his friend had another guy with him and he hand him something in a piece of paper “IT WAS SHABU” when it was in his hands he asked what is this because it was covered in the paper he didn’t have any idea what was inside until he opened it and saw whats inside and then the police was at his back and said “DONT MOVE WE’RE THE POLICE”, he said that at that time he felt all his dreams were black and white… but he asked these group of police to help him because he didn’t knew it was “DRUGS” they were like as if they really wanted to help him…but no everything was planned, those two guys were “ASSETS” of the police. and so it was already 2:00 o’clock in the morning and i was there giving him comfort, and we fell asleep sitting and heads leaning on the table. at 3 in the morning his uncle and aunt Emma the sister of his mom arrived with the 30,000 PESOS, he was scolded with very rough words, they didnt want to believe him…I pity him that he was driven away by his family and relatives..i am the only person he can talk to now…And now my head is aching… I hope that the government will make a move about this kind of policemen… THOUGH THE GOVERNMENT IS ALSO CORRUPT…I just hate Philippine Government..all are corrupt, robbers and thieves…I wish there would be changes…wish good people are the ones in government..All are just greedy for anything and wants everything on hand…

life is short and there are guarantees that I've
learned that you cannot make someone love you. all you
can do is be someone who can be loved. the rest is up
to them. I've also learned that no matter how much i
care, some people just don't care back. I've learned
that no matter what the consequences are, those who
are honest with theirselve's, get further in life it is
high time for us to ask ourselves, evaluate ourselves
if we've been honest with our dealings or are we just
playing around and passing the time? Do we trust
ourselves with fragile subjects such as friendship,
love, commitment and the like? How strong are we in
our conviction, in our faith? How sure are we that
this is what we really wanted in life? Could it be
that we are just fooling ourselves looking for the
easy answers to the emptiness inside us? I've learned
that we don't have to change friends if we understand
friend’s change. It is human growth. We change for the
better. that's the way of life. We are not stagnant, we
are continuously evolving. we are changing. What can
you expect with others and our dealings? it is good if
we grow together, but what if we don't? i still can
recall that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn't stop for your grief, life must go on.
         happiness is a product of realization one
must allow himself to go through a process to feel
happiness. accept the pains. you must get in touch
with your situation. sometimes people deny their
hardship, thinking that if they don't free them, they
will be happier. but its another way around. allow
yourself to go through the pain, choose not to stay in
pain. they say this is "self empowerment" you can
either be bitter about the pains or feel very
powerless or you can do something and feel powerful
enough to handle them. its a choice to live with or
without pain. forgive yourself, other people. but
before forgiveness comes in, think how other people
hurt. then realize that you can see yourself for what
you actually are and not how they want you to be. so
finding happiness is no longer rooted outside, but
inside you what you see, how you view things, what you
want. then it leads to your choice: to live your life
with yourself. take responsibility for your life. we
sometimes allow ourselves to let other people,
circumstances, or pains in the past to rule lives. so
we became  very unhappy and very bitter because we
live blaming others on who we are, where were at, or
how we should be. its an exhausting process because
you'll forever  be blaming other people...

TO BE CONTINUED...

i was reading my friends blog and was really amazed and fascinated to what she wrote…

this day was not an ordinary day for me..there was something about this day!

i did my work and stuff…did some emails and checked some other stuff like myspace, friendster, and all!

one thing is missing in my life…it is to be happy…and i just dont know what could make me really happy…i dreamed about my boyfriend-boyfriend… lols..what a term huh!? emailed him about my dream..it wasnt something naughty..(lols…)

i am unsure now of everything in life..it seems that i dont know anything about my friends now…it seems like there are things that are happening to them that i dont know…im not used to that..i try to be updated about things around me..about my family and my friends and my neighbors..hahaha…

i just dont know why things are this way now…one thing is missing also is that my very close friend toto is out of reach… i think he has something going on! it hurts alot… i wish someone could talk to me…helppppppppppppppppppppppppp…………………

My brother woke me up this morning to ask for something, it has been a nice day so far! I’ve ate my breakfast and slept back, at 11a.m i tried to fix everything, myself and my things…

Went to a boutique to buy some clothes and went back home, and then have to go to work…So it was quarter to two in the afternoon and i was in a hurry in going to the office. And i was 5 minutes late…

So i did my WOJO, my YM and some other stuff… i got some online messages from my friend and was sad to know about what had happened…I almost cried because i know i’m gonna miss him! Then i try to work my ass out with my work routine… you know, collecting links and the like… But i’m disturbed by what has been happening to my surroundings…I can’t concentrate because of my friend resigning from work, can’t concentrate because of some matters in my life that i dont want to open up for i know i would cry over it. How i wish things weren’t this much, wish things weren’t this screwed up!

I never thought my day would be a sad one… I just ask for one thing now, to be happy with those people I love, and to enjoy life again! its so hard enjoying life when you’re disturbed by some things which are important to you! But i know someday i’ll be happy as i want to be with the man of my dreams… To be with him would be the greatest thing that would happen to me! It’s gonna be life itself! And i promise to love him forever and ever! To my friends..i’ll always treasure each and every moment we have and we’ll have! I love you friends…